“What am I supposed to do now?”
“Get up and go on with your life. It’s alright to sit around, be depressed for a minute, cry about it, do whatever you have to, but don’t stay there too long. Get up and go on with your life. This is what I learned in all these years on this earth: if somebody wants to walk out of your life, let them go. Especially if you know you’ve done everything you can do. If you’ve sat around and been the best man or the best woman you can be and they still want to go? Let them go. Whatever they’re running after, they’ll see what they had in a minute, but by then it’s going to be too late. Because half these people you’ve been sitting around crying about and worrying about, in two or three years you won’t even remember their last name. How many times have you seen someone and thought, ‘What the hell was I thinking? I must have been lonely as hell to hook up with you’? Let folks go. Some people come into your life for a lifetime, some come for a season. You’ve got to know which is which. And you’re going to always mess up when you mix those seasonal people up with lifetime expectations. That was a person that was supposed to come and teach you one thing. You didn’t know it so you just fell in love, and now you wonder why you don’t have any peace no matter where you go.”
“But it’s not always that easy.”
“Nobody said it was going to be easy, but it will get easier when you learn how to love yourself. When you get to a point in your life where you look at people and say, ‘Now wait a minute, ‘You or me?” you will make a decision. No matter how much it hurts, let them go. And it will get easier. I promise you; everyday it will get easier and easier and easier. But you just have to make it through. And you have to learn to be by yourself. People have to learn how to be alone. I don’t understand all these people that say, ‘I need somebody.’ That is crazy as hell. If you don’t know how to be by yourself, what are you going to do with somebody else? Stop praying about it. Shut up and wait. Go work on you. That’s what that time is for, to get yourself together. I’d rather be in a corner by myself with a puppy and a goldfish and be happy, than sitting around with somebody in my house and wondering what the hell they’re there for. You would be surprised the things that people put up with just to have somebody to say they love them. I’ve been through too much to have people come into my life, when I’m supposed to have peace, and give me hell. There’s only two places on this earth that you’re going to have peace: the grave and your house. Now if you can’t walk in your house and have peace, there’s something wrong. They have to go.”
- Tyler Perry
